Self conscious
Back to your authentic self: The journey to your unfiltered truth
Do you still remember the moments in your childhood when you were completely free and carefree? When you didn’t care what others thought about you or how they saw you? You fought with other children in the sandpit over toys, burst into tears in the supermarket because you didn’t get what you wanted and sang and danced at the top of your lungs simply because you felt like it. It didn’t matter if someone was watching you. You did it because it felt right.
But then came the turning point. You learned that there are apparent ideals that you have to live up to. You started wearing certain clothes, styling your hair in a certain way, doing or not doing things just to fit in. This urge to conform is deeply rooted in our human nature. In the Stone Age, exclusion from the group was actually life-threatening, and our brains have partly preserved this fear to this day.
But what was essential for survival back then is now becoming your biggest obstacle. Look at the price you are paying for this constant adaptation:
- You can barely accept compliments. You pick them apart immediately and ask yourself: “Is the compliment really meant seriously?”
- Criticism, on the other hand, you take to heart. A small comment can haunt you for days and make you brood.
- Despite all your external successes, you keep asking yourself: “Why do I still not feel good enough?”
- You bend over backwards for others, suppress your opinion and your needs. All this just to avoid offending others. Just not to be different and possibly stand out.
- Self-optimization has become your constant companion. No matter what you achieve, it’s never enough. Giving 100%? That’s not enough. At least 120%, better still more.
You can ask yourself, is the person who is about to give me a tip/advice already where I want to go or really in a position to tell me something (because he/she comes from a social profession, e.g. doctor, ambulance service, police, fire department, etc.)?
You can also observe how you talk to yourself. Would you talk to a loved one in the same way?
This constant self-doubt, this feeling of never really being good enough… This is not your natural state! It’s the result of years of conformity, of suppressing your true self. But here’s the truth: you were not made to live a life of constant self-denial. That nagging feeling of unfulfillment? It’s the voice of your authentic self longing for freedom.
The good news: you can break this cycle. Our brain has the wonderful ability of neuroplasticity. It can change and learn new things throughout our lives. Through targeted work we can:
- Uncover the deep-rooted causes of your self-doubt – often they lie in imprints from childhood that you no longer even know about
- Identify and transform your inner critic
- Step by step, find your way back to your natural self-confidence. Back to the state you knew naturally as a child. Joie de vivre, self-love and self-confidence are just one step away.
This is not a superficial “positive thinking” approach or a quick motivational phrase. It is a profound process of self-discovery. A journey back to the child in you who still knew how to be unconditionally happy, how to accept yourself and look at the world with open eyes.
Imagine what it would be like:
- To look in the mirror in the morning with a smile, without any absurd thoughts of self-optimization
- To speak your mind without fear of rejection
- To make decisions out of inner conviction and not out of fear or a sense of duty
- To finally live the life that really suits you and not what others expect of you
When you are ready:
- Leave old beliefs and self-doubt behind
- Build unshakeable self-confidence
- Set boundaries without feeling guilty
- Finally be yourself again, without filters or masks
Then I invite you to join me in throwing your old beliefs overboard and sowing new beneficial seeds that you will hopefully be able to reap from for a very long time. Will you take the initiative now to sow the seeds for your own personal tree of life that you can always build on? Which grows with every new experience, thrives and becomes stronger and bigger until it has grown so much that nothing can knock it down so quickly.
Whether you believe it or not, there are no “right” and “wrong” decisions. There are only decisions that take you further. Even if they were supposedly “wrong”, they were still right, because otherwise you wouldn’t have learned a lesson that would have been important. Every decision has made you the person you are now.
Not acting is also a decision, by the way 😉
Are you choosing the path of being self conscious (of yourself)?
The longest path you can take is the one to yourself. But it is also the most rewarding. Every journey begins with a first step…
Are you ready for change?
Do you want to go through life liberated, happy and content? Then arrange your free preliminary talk. Let’s find out together how I can support you in leading a more fulfilling life.
Your path to change starts now!
PS: Other people’s thoughts about you are not your concern, because they are their thoughts and they don’t belong to you 😉